Surveys and Discussions part 2

As we were researching for our article Penis Size Does matter, we came across this very interesting penis size discussion in an internet forum. It was quite long, but a very catchy reading, though. Here is the story in short:

After years of marriage, with a child, this man wants reassurance of his penis size after his wife suddenly recalls her memories of her previous lovers, who turned out to be very well-endowed with thick and long penises.

Can you imagine being in his shoes? That’s totally embarrassing for him and awfully improper and indiscreet from his wife’s side.

Obviously all he could conclude from this situation is that his wife might prefer a larger penis than his own, as he admits his is short and thick. She talked that her past lover had long and thick penis. When he asked her what she preferred, she replied that the best penis size for her was long and tick, and the second best was long and thin; short and thin were her last preference, which makes her husband’s short and thick penis the one before the last preference.

The woman went further when she described that her previous lover’s penis was not only long and thick, but looked very erotic and sexually stimulating, and also used to give her a very full feeling inside her. This by the way is normal. It’s just like the sight of woman’s vulva is sexually stimulating for a man, the looks of an erect penis is also stimulating for a woman both physically and mentally. Well, it’s somehow natural for a woman to be more aroused at the sight of a bigger penis than a smaller one.

She also admitted that most of her girlfriends and women, she has ever talked about this, claim that larger penises are more erotic and arousing than shorter ones. She even went further by admitting that she would not date a man unless he meets her criteria of a well-endowed man (certain length and thickness, which she didn’t specify probably because she though that could hurt her husband’s feelings).

The man seeking help feels humiliated and embarrassed because of the fact that he thinks his wife and her friends have been discussing penis size among themselves, and that this same discussion has left his wife pining for what she could feel while having sex with a man whose penis is far bigger than his own.

However, the man observed his wife had never said anything like this or shared any of her preferences before. She had never even given him a slight indication that his penis was inadequate for her needs. Why then, he wondered?

What is even more disturbing is the sense of betrayal he feels because of the long years of passionate sex life without any troubles. And now suddenly he realizes that his wife might have been deceiving him for having a sexual pleasure with him through the years.

Needing a reassurance, this man turns for help to the forum support group to which he’s been a moderator for quite some time. After helping and giving advices to many people in need, it’s now the one who needs help. What an irony, isn’t it? Here are some of the answers he received:

A woman in the support group:

She makes the valid observation that his wife is with him, not with another man, and that she is not showing any signs of being so dissatisfied with his skill or ability as a lover that she is about to leave him. Of course, she blames his wife for not being able to keep the discussion she had with her friends to herself, but also points out that there is no use for him to feel embarrassed or so much damaged by this simple observation that his wife has been so insensitive to make.

A man answers:

Another man shares that his wife admits that she is sexually aroused by porn where men have large penises, and that she also has sexual fantasies about that. She also admits that she has had lovers with large penises in the past, however she loves her husband and that love has nothing to do with his penis size. The man concludes that although women may say they like or prefer big penises, in the end it isn't all about sex and penis size for them.

And again the man who put the original question replies:

Several weeks after he asked for help, the man comes back to the forum support group and reveals that his sex life has improved drastically, because he himself finds the idea of large penises exciting. And also shares that if he talks about his wife being fucked by a guy with a big cock as he gives her head, she comes hard and fast. She then ravishes him as he screws her. So this fantasy has improved the sex for both of them.

He also observes that she loves his penis - she says, the fact that she likes the idea of bigger ones does not mean, in her eyes, that this takes anything anyway from his. That sounds like a very female way of thinking which men may have a problem understanding, but I can believe it's true.

He finally adds that his wife’s ex lovers with large penises had never made her come, whereas she comes with him, because she finds him very desirable and she loves him...

In the long run being a good lover is not all about the size of your penis. It is mostly about technique, intention, feeling and caring for your partner.

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